I have been checking out a lot of other blogs and a common theme that I keep coming across is parenting advice. There are a lot of people out there that consider themselves experts at parenting. It makes me wonder, what exactly makes someone an expert a parenting? Is it something that someone would take classes in? I am a parent, and I am pretty sure that I encounter situations that have never been discussed in a parenting class. Are you an expert if you have a certain number of kids? I have met people with one kid that are doing just great, while someone with 5 five kids is ready to melt down at any moment. So, no, the number of kids would not have anything to do with being a parenting expert. How about how successful your kids turn out? Well, does that mean that they did not go to prison, got a good job and lived happily every after. Who would define what success is? As it turns out, I am thinking that the whole thing is subjective. In other words, anybody could be a parenting expert, you just have to declare yourself one. I have observed lot of kids and am parenting two. If seems to be going well, so I must be a parenting expert.
Now that I have declared myself a parenting expert, I shall impart valuable advice to you.
*No two children are the same, therefore what works for one may not work for the other. Ask any mother, each kid is different, each learns a different way and each reacts to situations differently. So, if you have an expert telling you that you something has to be done one way and one way only, know that they are full of it and move on to someone who has actually had kids.
*Family dynamics and routines are all different. Some families and children thrive on structure and others feel like they are in prison if they are subjected to any type of structure. Figure out what works for you and your family.
*Everything does not have to be equal all the time. In different stages of their life, kids demand different amounts of resources and energy. An obvious example is an infant or a special needs child that seems to demand more attention than everyone else. This is a fact of life, so quit apologizing for it and move on. Of course I am not saying deprive the other children, but everything is not always equal. An example in my own life is that I have one child in private school and another in public school. More resources go towards my son in private school. My daughter understands however that if we keep my son on the correct path now and set him up to succeed, he will be able to take care of himself later and even help me when I am old and decrepit. If my son never went to private school, my daughter would probably be left to take care of me all by herself.
Since I am a parenting expert now, feel free to send me parenting questions. Also, feel free to contact me if you feel the need to pay me for my services.