I need some opinions. My daughter is 12 years old and in 6th grade. Currently, she is not allowed to wear makeup and she has not shown much interest until now. She came home from a friend's house last night with makeup on. I did not think it was a big deal until I noticed she still had the makeup on when she was leaving for school this morning. Of course I questioned her on it, and she said it would not come off. Being a woman that wears makeup, I know that if you want makeup off, you can get it off.
I am not willing to allow her to wear makeup right now, but I am considering allowing her when she starts 7th grade (in the fall) and starts middle school. She will still be 12. Do you think this is too young? If I do allow her, I will control what colors (muted) she would be allowed to wear. If I remember correctly, I think I started wearing makeup in 8th grade, but that is so long ago, I am not positive. What is your take on this? I would really like your opinion.
In general, yes, it is too young... I think when I was 13 a relative gave me my first lipstick and at the time white, yes white lipstick was in...it actually had a glittery effect.. Anyway, my mom questioned it and the relative said " all the girls wear it"... ( i know what u r thinking! lol). My mom let me wear it and I did, not everyday, just whenever.. I do believe that if one says 'no' over things that aren't too over the top, the child will do it behind your back, believe me, I did and I was a good girl who did what I was told... No one is perfect.. Tho I think that if u have a heart to heart and have the expectations out there- your daughter will respect that...
ReplyDeleteI started wearing lip gloss in fifth grade, and was allowed to wear a light dusting of powder, blush and mascara in sixth. I wasn't allowed "full makeup" until I was a freshman. I don't think it's too young at all, as long as you're not going overboard.
ReplyDeleteNow, full base, blush, eyeliner, lipstick, eye shadow . . . the whole nine yards? No, not yet. But things like gloss (not lipstick), powder, and VERY LIGHT blush should be okay. This is also a great time to teach her about the "natural look" - which I try to stress on my own 13 year old step-daughter.
Good luck!
My mother allowed me to start wearing eye shadow and lip gloss at the end of my sixth grade year. I was 12, but was not allowed full makeup until about my 8th grade year and this would be the same that I would allow my daughter, if I had one.
ReplyDeleteNow my stepdaughter... her mother has been doing full makeup on her and sending her to school that way since 3rd grade. It drives me absoluately bonkers and I am dreading her turning into a teen. With make-up out of the way, what does she have to look forward to? Nothing that won't cause problems I am sure.
I started wearing makeup in middle school, so 7th grade also. That was right around the time I started getting bad acne so for me it was more about the coverup than the eyeshadow or lipstick. My mom made sure I didn't go out looking like a lady of the night. ;-) Good luck with your daughter-I remember 12 also being when I started getting the teenage attitude. Oh joy!
ReplyDeleteHave you (and she) considered the possible effect on her skin? Makeup can increase or bring on skin problems eg by pore clogging etc, so might be a good time to discuss all the 'resposibilities' that go with wearing makeup like proper cleansing, moisturising etc. And what is she trying to achieve with makeup? Does she think she needs to cover up blemishes? Or is it more about colour?? Maybe finding out why she wants to wear it would be a good starting point!
ReplyDeleteThings like this make me glad I only have boys!
ReplyDeleteHow about, she gets to wear a tiny bit of muted colored makeup if she has washed her face the night before....to get off any previous makeup. If not, not only does the face get washed, but no makeup the next day. If she's not taking care of her skin properly, then no makeup. Never give something, without demanding something in return, I say.....
ReplyDeleteOh Lord, I'm so glad I had 3 boys! That being said, I remember hiding makeup from my mom. Until one morning I reached waaay back into my drawer, where I thought I had brilliantly hidden my stash and found a note "Kilroy was here" in my mother's scrawl.
ReplyDeleteShe never said a word, just the note to let me know she knew what I was up to. I can't remember how old I was. But I didn't take it as an approval, either.
Nowadays, girls start even earlier w/everything. Um, I come from the days when there were only 3 tv channels!
I'm not much help. I don't know what I'd do. But I know if you talk with (not TO) her, you'll open a line of communication that'll serve you both well for the teen years. Maybe!
I all was thought that i was to young to be wearing makeup and.My parents didn't let me start wearing makeup until i was 18 now i realize why.
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